Non-denominational Ordained Minister
Blowing of the Conch shell to announce the beginning of a new voyage and to scare away evil spirits (or crazy wedding guests)
We are gathered here today to celebrate one of life's greatest moments, The Joining of 2 hearts. In this ceremony today we will witness the joining of GROOM/BRIDE and GROOM/BRIDE in marriage.
If there is anyone present who has just cause why this couple should not be united let them speak now or forever hold their peace.
Who gives this man/woman to be married today (Optional)
The Hawaiian word for love is Aloha. Today we’ve come together to celebrate the special Aloha that exists between Groom’s/Bride's Name and Groom's/Bride’s Name and their desire to make their Aloha eternal through the commitment marriage. Groom’s/Bride's Name and Groom's/Bride’s Name you are entering into marriage because you want to be together. You are marrying because you know you will grow more in happiness and Aloha more fully as life-mates. You will belong entirely to each other, one in mind, one in heart, and in all things. No greater blessing of happiness can come to you than to have this devoted Aloha, which you now publicly affirm. Keep this understanding of your marriage alive in the days ahead. May your Aloha continuously grow truer and more wonderful with each day you enjoy together.
~~~Lei Exchange~~~ Part 1 may be inserted here*
A good marriage must be created.
In marriage the "little" things are the big things. It is never being too old to hold hands. It is remembering to say, ”I love you" at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry. It is standing together and facing the world.
It is speaking words of appreciation, and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways. It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful. It is not only marrying the right person -- it is being the right partner
~~~VOWS ~~~(face each other and hold hands)(repeat after me)
I, GROOM’S/BRIDE'S NAME take you GROOM'S/BRIDE’S NAME to be my husband/wife, my partner in life and my one true love. I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.
I will trust you and honor you. I will laugh with you and cry with you.
I will love you faithfully through the best and the worst, through the difficult and the easy.
Whatever may come I will always be there. As I have given you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep.
GROOM’S/BRIDE'S NAME AND GROOM'S/BRIDE’S NAME I would ask that you always treat yourself and each other with respect, and remind yourselves often of what brought you together today. Give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness and kindness that your marriage deserves. When frustration and difficulty assail your marriage - as they do to every relationship at one time or another - focus on what still seems right between you, not only the part that seems wrong. This way, when clouds of trouble hide the sun in your lives and you lose sight of it for a moment, you can remember that the sun is still there. And if each of you will take responsibility for the quality of your life together, it will be marked by abundance and happiness.
GROOM’s/BRIDE'S NAME , do you take GROOM'S/BRIDE’S NAME to be your Husband/Wife? ("I do")
Do you promise to love, honor, cherish and protect him/her, forsaking all others and holding only unto him/her forevermore? ("I do")
~~~Ring Exchange~~~ (who has the rings)(repeat after me)
The ring is a symbol of the unbroken circle of love. Love freely given has no beginning and no end, no giver and no receiver for each is the giver and each is the receiver. May these rings always remind you of the vows you have taken.
I Groom’s/Bride's Name , take thee, GROOM'S/BRIDE’S NAME to be my Husband/Wife- To have and to hold, in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, in joy and sorrow, and I promise My love to you. And with this ring, I take you as my Husband/Wife, for as long as we both shall live.
~~~Hand Lei Ceremony~~~Part 2 may be inserted here*
~~~Sand Ceremony~~~May be inserted here*
To make your relationship work will take love. This is the core of your marriage and why you are here today. It will take trust, to know, that in your hearts, you truly want what is best for each other. It will take dedication, to stay open to one another - and to learn and grow together.
It will take faith, to go forward together, without knowing exactly what the future brings. And it will take commitment, to hold true to the journey you both have pledged to today.
~~~Pronouncement of couple as married~~~
Today you have exchanged vows, leis, I do’s, rings, blended the sand and have Pledged your Aloha to each other. So, By the power vested in me I now pronounce you
You may kiss your Groom/Bride.
I would like to introduce the happy couple.
*NOTE: The Lei Exchange and Sand Blending Rituals fit well into this ceremony.